3–5 YEARS BECOMING UPSET WHEN LEFT ALONE

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3–5 YEARS BECOMING UPSET WHEN LEFT ALONE

Decoded message:

I am afraid and I feel alone.
I feel worried when I am away from my parents.

Suggested actions:

Comforting

Hold your child and let him know that he can feel safe, because you are watching over him even though you may not always be there.

Adapting your actions to be more receptive

Know that your child may, from time to time, go through periods of insecurity or fear of being separated from his parents.
Be sensitive to his fear by letting him know where you are in the house or that you are leaving, but will be back soon.

Making amends

Hold him and comfort him as soon as possible, when he is upset because you were absent.
Tell him you are sorry that he is sad and reassure him by telling him that your are now there for him.

Staying close

Spend time with your child if he seems to need it.
You can cuddle with him and tell him that you understand his fear of being left alone.
This shows him that you care about his safety even when you are not there. This will help him trust you even more.

Protecting/Taking charge

Do not leave him in a situation where he doesn’t seem comfortable.
Ask him questions and try to see what is wrong.
Once you’ve identified the source of the problem, explain to your child that you understand him and encourage him to take part in activities with others while you’re gone.
Tell him that you appreciate the courage he has shown.