3–5 YEARS EXPRESSING HIS FEELINGS ABOUT BEING APART FROM HIS PARENTS

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3–5 YEARS EXPRESSING HIS FEELINGS ABOUT BEING APART FROM HIS PARENTS

Decoded message:

I am worried and I need to tell you why.
I need you to listen closely, because sharing my feelings is very difficult.
I need you to tell me that you understand my emotions and my reaction to being separated from you.
I need to be reassured.

Suggested actions:

Comforting

Comfort your child when you need to leave, even if he is becoming more independent.
Your child can express his feelings more easily when separated from you, but may still be worried when you are away.
Keep in touch via telephone or Internet whenever possible.
Make sure that your child has a comforting object or blanket.

Adapting your actions to be more receptive

Be sensitive to the fact that your child can’t always put words on his feelings.
He may express them by retreating or showing disruptive behaviour.
Explain to him, in simple language, the reasons why you need to leave from time to time.
Remember that he feels helpless when you leave and that he doesn’t always understand why you must be away from him.
Ask him what would help him feel better.

Staying close

Stop what you are doing and give your child your undivided attention, when he is sharing his feelings with you.
Try not to interrupt him and let him talk as long as he wants.
Show him that you know how to listen.
Discuss his feelings with him and try to reassure him. Take him seriously.
Remind him that you look forward to coming home too, when you are away from him.