3–5 YEARS WANTING TO BE MORE INVOLVED IN DECISIONS THAT AFFECT HIM

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3–5 YEARS WANTING TO BE MORE INVOLVED IN DECISIONS THAT AFFECT HIM

Decoded message:

I need to know that what I think and feel matters to you.
I need you to ask my opinion.

Suggested actions:

Adapting your actions to be more receptive

Be sensitive to the fact that your child wants to become more independent.
He will want to make decisions, and choices in matters that affect him.
Get ready to negotiate!

Providing tender, loving care

Whenever possible, let your child make decisions about things that affect him, such as the color of pants he wants to wear at daycare, what fruit he wants for his snack, etc.
Suggest choices (no more than two) to facilitate his decision process.

Protecting/Taking charge

Decide what is essential and what is safe for your child.
There is a difference between letting your child make certain choices and letting him decide everything.
You may say: “I am sorry, but you can’t sit on my lap while I am driving.
You must stay in your seat, because it is safer.”
Take time to discuss and negotiate simple things with him. This will help your child communicate and become more independent.