Temper tantrums

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From 1 to 2 years

Temper tantrums


When a young child is angry, he does not control his emotions.  He cannot stop and this scares him.  He does not understand what is happening to him.  If you scream at him or if you punish him, he will be even more scared.

Your child needs your help to learn how to express his feelings in an appropriate way.  He relies on you.

Your role is to help him manage his temper tantrum.



By observing you, he learns how to control his emotions.

When a child has a temper tantrum, don’t try to stop his tantrum or to reason with him. He is unable to listen to you when he is angry. Wait until he is calmer before talking to him. This is how he will start learning how to control his emotions.

You are a role model for your child, so, when he has a temper tantrum:

  • Take a deep breath;
  • Remain calm;
  • Do not scream at him or punish him.


Teach your child how to control his emotions.

He needs you.

  • Stay close to him;
  • Listen to him;
  • Remain calm and be patient;
  • Protect him.


When his temper tantrum is finished

  • Ask him how he is; talk about his feelings.
  • Describe his feelings, for example: "Were you angry?"
  • Show him how to control his anger without screaming or hitting. Tell him, for example: "I don’t understand why you are angry, but there is no need for you to scream and to hit".



If you are having some difficulty controlling your own emotions, discuss this issue with a doctor, a nurse or with a social worker or other health professional. Resources are available to help you.